“As you think so shall you become”- Bruce Lee
Your brain is continuously consumed by thoughts. These ‘thoughts’; your ideas and intentions manifest to form your feelings and such dictate your actions. Positive thinking leads to positive action which leads to success. So let’s do it.
The law of Attraction (In a nutshell)
Like attracts like. If you want to attract great things you must think of and imagine success and positive results. Your thoughts create an energy that you radiate and send out to everyone you meet. So what we think about all day is pretty important. What were you thinking about today? Was it positive or negative? Do you even remember?
Thinking positively is a lot like taking a good selfie. Both allow you to see the same thing with a different view, in the best light in order to get the best results. We’ve mastered selfie art so optimism should be cinch. We have the power to control our conscious thoughts so why not make them positive ones.
If it’s so beneficial then why doesn’t everyone do it?
Because negativity is a magnet. It’s addictive and negative thoughts attract each other leading to non desirable circumstances and further negativity. When I’m upset about something, my brain goes into overdrive pondering all the other reasons in my life that I have to be sad or stressed about. I vividly remember getting in trouble as a teenager. If my dad shouted at me I got so upset and angry. I cried while looking in the mirror! I completely indulged the sadness. By allowing myself to wallow in this self-pity I was attracting negative thoughts. Before long I was in hysterics thinking about the possibility of losing my grandparents in the future? Eventually I gave in and went downstairs. He held out his hand to his little brat and said ‘Friends’? As a very bold teenager this became a ritual for us. Even if I was still angry I would shake it. A huge negative weight lifted from my young shoulders, relief and happy thoughts flooded in and I didn’t think about my grandparents again until it was time to get excited about going to visit.
Like attracts like. Simple as. We need to harness the power of positive thinking to help us to find happiness. Optimism is a choice, one that comes quite naturally to some but requires more effort from those who are more innately drawn towards seeing the glass half empty (mise). A positive mental and emotional attitude involves focusing on desirable results and Stuart Littles idea of finding the silver lining if we do fail to achieve such results.
A word that’s thrown around a lot in the ‘self-help’ world. What does it actually mean to practice gratitude? It’s recommended to write a list of everything you’re grateful for each night before you go to bed or to get yourself a ‘gratitude stone’ and hold in your hand, whispering sweet nothings to it about how much you love your life. Actively doing this is a great start and hats off to you if you can keep it up. It’s all well and good when you’re in a January style ‘new me’ mindset but these activities quickly become boring and unsustainable for most of us.
Gratitude is a learned skill.
We weren’t born grateful, in fact we were born needy af. I certainly don’t remember coming out of the womb ready to thank the woman who just housed me for 9 months. Things were simpler back then, our needs we’re basic and attended to without question. Now we’re big boys and girls and we need to learn to appreciate the world around us. Either that or spend the rest of your miserable life pining, focusing on everything you don’t have only to find that none of it mattered anyway. By all means strive for more, don’t settle, but you may aswell enjoy the ride, it’s usually the best part.
Cultivating appreciation involves training your subconscious to be grateful all by itself. How? By consciously and actively practising gratitude every day. It’s as simple as saying thankyou, to everyone, everything and every situation in your life both past and present. Everything has served a purpose in getting you this far and shaping you into the person you are right now. Even if you aren’t happy with who you are or where you’re at. Be grateful for all of the circumstances that led you to wanting to change. Being grateful isn’t easy. When life is ok and manageable we need to be actively practicing gratitude as much as we can so that when times get too tough and we’re too angry to be thankful, by force of habit, your subconscious will simply be positive in the face of affliction, allowing you to react naturally in the best possible manner.
“If something is slow to come to you, it can only be for one reason: You are spending more time focused upon it’s absence that you are about it’s presence”– Abraham Hicks.
We don’t have unlimited energy stores so instead of focusing on what you don’t have, spend a little bit of that energy planning how you’re going to get said things, another bit actually executing that plan and spend the rest of that energy appreciating shit.
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think”- Christopher Robin
That voice inside your head is the only one you have to listen to 24/7. Positive self-talk is key. It alters your subconscious habits and behaviours. A mantra is like a statement that you repeat to yourself over and over. Choose one, it can be anything at all, it should be relevant to what you want to focus on in your life right now. Keep it short such as ’Persevere’ , ‘Breathe’, ‘You’re worth it’ or ’I’m so grateful’
When I’m feeling down I repeat the mantra ‘Ride the wave’ to myself over and over. It reminds me that the feeling is temporary, it will pass and I just need to get through it. I use the mantra ‘Head down’ on a daily basis to remind myself to stay focused on my goals and to keep working even when I really don’t feel like it. If you’re having confidence issues, using something like ‘You’re class’ works. Say it to yourself several times a day and you will eventually train your subconscious mind to believe it! Mantras have religious origins, the word itself meaning ‘instrument of the mind’ So don’t be afraid to blow your own trumpet as it’ll benefit you and no-one else can hear it!
I spent today (Monday) writing the bones of this post. This evening I went to training and I felt awful. My groin was paining me to run and my shins were in bits. It’s the week leading up to the biggest race of my year and my body is letting me down. I couldn’t do the session and after training I felt so low and alone. It was all up to me, I didn’t have anyone else to pull me out of this hole. I went to the gym, stretched and rolled and listened to some uplifting music. This helped marginally. I got home and realised I was too hungry to make dinner so I microwaved soup, it tasted crap, I threw it out. I made eggs, I found a shell. I toasted some bread, it was mouldy. Grr. I had spent the day writing about the power of positive thinking and the evening wallowing in negativity- Pretty damn hypocritical. I just wanted everything to go smoothly, to go right for once. But nothing is ever straight forward like that so there’s no point in wishing that things will pan out without hiccups, something I’m learning the hard way. Obstacles like injuries are going to present themselves again and again, to every athlete and non athlete, not just me. Sitting here now, post swim in the sea, post hot chocolate and post reading this blog post over and over, trying to drink my own medicine. I am actually starting to realise how lucky I am that I still get to run on Saturday, that I have the opportunity to give absolutely everything to a race that means everything to me. I’m so grateful for the work I put in and the sacrifices I made this year which are giving me this chance to prove myself and to so what I love. This weeks training won’t go the way I had planned but that’s ok, my plan was written in pencil anyway, so I’m going to adjust, get on with it and stay f*cking positive.